We’re often told that if we want to be successful or create fabulous lives, we need to set goals and keep our eyes firmly focused on them. So we set goals around our ideal weight, the sort of person we want to be when dealing with difficult people, the career steps we need to achieve within the next five years or the type of car we should be driving by the time we’re aged 30.
The problem for me is that at times the reality of my everyday life seems so far removed from the end goal I’m working towards that I feel like giving up. Instead of being kind and understanding, I shout at the person who is being difficult and that financial goal seems as unachievable today as it did 12 months ago. Some mornings when I stand on the bathroom scales I want to hurl them out the window because even though I’ve watched my diet, those kilos are stubbornly clinging to my body.
Sometimes my goals don’t inspire me, they mock me and make me feel like a failure.
I’m in the process of trying to create an online coaching and writing business that will support me, but right now it seems an impossibility even though I’m following the advice of those who have gone ahead. I feel like a fool for having big dreams and a failure because I’m struggling to achieve them.
So how do we keep going when the road ahead seems never ending? How to we hold onto our future goals and dreams while living in the reality of the present. The following three things keep me afloat when I feel as if I’m drowning in failure.
Yes, we need goals we are working towards but remember that life is not a TV show where complex issues are solved or challenging goals achieved within the hour. Life is messy and at times we feel small and overwhelmed by the immensity of the goals we set ourselves. The way forward is to acknowledge those feelings of failure and defeat, take note of your achievements and pick yourself up so you can keep going.
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