I’m competitive and I love to win. Right now I feel like I am losing and I don’t know what to do about it.
I’m trying to sell my house and this time last year the housing market here was booming. If I’d put my house up for sale then, buyers would have been beating a path to my door and waving checks at me. Now, because of changes to the mortgage lending criteria, house prices have fallen. I’m angry at myself, I feel like I’m missing out and I feel like a loser.
The thing is I can’t change what I have no control over, so blaming myself and feeling sorry for myself is a total waste of energy. The reality is that life hands us losses as well as wins. Sometimes we’re responsible for what happens and sometimes we aren’t. There are times when we lose because of the actions of others and there are times when we lose because we’ve made mistakes, misjudged situations and got things wrong. Knowing how to respond when you’re not winning is a necessary life skill. So what can you do?
When you feel like you’re losing, you have two choices. You can either wallow in anger and self pity or you can take a deep breath, listen to what your emotions are trying to show you and face your fears. Like me at the moment, you might not be able to change your external circumstances, but you can always change your attitude and refuse to let your deep fears pull you down.
Tough times are never easy, but they can teach us about ourselves and show us where to make changes that give us more of the life we long for.
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