How do you talk to yourself? Are you kind and supportive or are you critical and negative? Are you a good friend to yourself or are you a bully?
Your self talk is important because what you tell yourself often subconsciously, determines what the life you create for yourself. Your self talk might just be sabotaging your efforts to create a meaningful life.
The problem with self-talk is that we interpret the present through what happened in the past. Your self-talk is based on experiences that were touchstones in your life. Those experiences (both positive and negative) were indelibly marked into your subconscious and became reference points in terms of how you view yourself and respond in similar situations in the future.
The problem is that the messages you received were just someone else’s opinion. They were not truth, yet you continue to parrot those messages in your head, long after your circumstance have changed or the person concerned has moved out of your life.
There are 5 steps to changing your self-talk:
You may need to go through this process several times to move past destructive messages you’ve told yourself for years.
So how do you talk to yourself? Are you polite and kind? Do you treat yourself with respect or are you harsh and critical? Are you supportive and encouraging?
Has this helped you? If so, I’d love to hear from you. Leave a comment or tell me about your experiences trying to change your self talk.
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