Do you feel you have little choice in your everyday life? Does the need to earn a living or care for others leave you feeling as if your only decisions each day are whether to put salt on your potatoes or what dress you put on in the morning.
Perhaps you have young children or you’re a full-time carer for someone you love. Your days are spent meeting their needs and even the food you cook is chosen because it’s suitable for them. Or perhaps your job drains your time and energy but you can’t leave it because you want to provide for your family. Or maybe financially you struggle to make ends meet and the idea of having disposable income is just a joke.
It’s not that you don’t love your family or your job, but having little or no choice in your daily life makes you feel trapped. This feeling of being trapped can be utterly emotionally and mentally debilitating. In fact, when all choice is removed from a person, we call it slavery or imprisonment.
Having choice is really important. It empowers, it validates, it motivates, it engages.
So what can you do when choice feels nonexistent? How can you feel empowered and motivated?
You exercise the 4 choices you have that no-one or no circumstance can ever take from you. These are:
Victor Frankl, a survivor of the Nazi death camps, put it this way:
“Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”
What choices have you exercised today?
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