Choice is part of everyday life. Many of the daily choices we make are of little importance in the bigger scheme of things. Do I wear my grey skirt or a red dress to work today? Do I listen to the latest news or Ed Sheeran as I commute to work? Do I buy my morning coffee from the café nearest the metro station or walk an extra five minutes to the café with the really cute barista? Do I get my haircut this weekend or next? Do I watch TV tonight or go to bed early and read a book? Shall I cook lasagne or salmon for dinner? None of these choices matter.
Other choices you make each day, have longer-term implications. Do you stay an extra two hours at work to get ahead of your colleagues or do you leave on time and spend those two hours with your four-year-old son before he goes to bed? Do you get up and go to the gym before work or do you stay an extra hour in bed? Do you listen to your partner talking about his day or do you nod and keep scanning through Facebook? Do you eat that extra piece of delicious chocolate mud cake or do you say no because you’ve had enough? These choices all seem insignificant, but if they are part of a pattern of choices, they can have significant implications for your life.
And then there are the big choices you make less frequently that can set the direction of your life for years to come. Do you buy a beautiful house with a large mortgage that keeps you in a job your loathe or do you buy something less well-appointed that gives you the financial freedom to start a new career on a lower salary? Do you continue to put up with a toxic relationship or do you start taking steps towards moving into a place on your own where you can create a life that fits you? Do you choose to start a family now while you’re young or do you do an MBA to get ahead in your career? Do you commit to the relationship you’re in, or do you keep your options open?
We say we like to have choice, but I’ve found that having choice is challenging for four reasons:
Choice comes with responsibility. We all want choice, but we don’t always want to responsibility that comes with choice. Take time this week to look at the choices you are making in your life. Do you small daily choices fit with what you tell others you want from your life. Do you know what is important to you and are you making good choices? Are your choices truly aligned with the deepest desires of your heart?
What choices do you find easy to make which ones are challenging? I’d love to hear from you how you feel when you choose things in your life.
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