When I was a teenager, life felt confusing. I had no idea what I wanted to do with my life but everyone assured me things would become clear when I got older. I imagined living in a magical place where I’d follow some grand plan that make me happy. My life would be exciting and filled with the things I loved doing. I’d no longer make mistakes or be ruled by fears or doubts and I’d confidently make a difference in the lives of others. I couldn’t wait to become an adult and get hold of the masterplan.
Except of course, that’s not what happened. By the time I held my 21st birthday party, I was working in a job I didn’t enjoy and still had no idea what I wanted to do with my life. I was beginning to understand that the magical place I’d dreamed of didn’t exist and there was no masterplan.
It took me a lot longer to realise that creating the masterplan was my job and no-one else’s. I had to decide what kind of life I wanted to live. I was responsible for creating my life and I did that through the choices I made every day.
Some of your choices will be big, life changing ones that completely alter the direction of your life. Choices like what career to pursue, where you live, who you choose for a partner or whether you have children, can dramatically alter your life direction in a very short space of time. Every career choice offers different opportunities while the people you surround yourself with can enhance your life or drag you down.
Smaller daily choices may seem unimportant and of no consequence but these often become habits that set the direction of your life. If you choose to consistently practice kindness towards everyone, your life will evolve differently than if you are judgmental and critical of others. If you fritter time away on things that don’t matter like watching endless TV soaps, your life will be different from one in which you put your energy and time into achieving your dreams. How you look after your body will have a huge impact on your overall quality of life and the adventures you can have, particularly as you get older.
Every choice you make, both big and small, combine together to create your life.
Are you living a life that feels good? What life would you like to have? Look at the big choices you’ve made so far – have they taken you in the right direction? What about all the small choices you make every day – do they support your dream life or take you further from it?
What is your masterplan? What do you really want from life? What different choices do you need to make today to achieve the life you want?
Image by Jorge Schubert