A couple of months ago I had an interview for a job. I dislike job interviews because everything is loaded against the applicant. There are always two interviewers and just one of you. They know all about the job and what skills they’re looking for, whereas you’ve read a vaguely worded job description listing a range of attributes that you know you’ll never match up to. After all, how could any one person possibly display be technically outstanding, great with people, a problem solver, self sufficient yet a team player! In other words, they want a superstar and you’re definitely not a superstar!
And then they always ask questions such as: ‘Why should we hire you and what makes you so special?’ The problem is that your interviewers don’t really want to know what makes you special. They want to know whether you can do the job and whether you’ll fit in, so it’s always hard to know how to answer those questions.
But the question ‘What makes you special?’ is a question we all need to answer if we want to make good decisions in life. We need to know what makes us tick and how we can make a a difference in some way.
So what makes you special? In what way are you unique? Think of some words you’d use to describe yourself. Are you kind, generous, ambitious, cautious, thoughtful, organized, family focused, creative, entrepreneurial, curious or perhaps glamorous? If none of these fit, write down a list of words that would describe you.
These things are your values. They are what make you special and different from anyone else. Your values drive your interests, how you view the world and how you interpret the things that happen to you. Your values are also linked to your unique gifts and abilities. Your values are what make you, you.
You don’t choose your values, they are hard wired within you. If you want to live a life that makes you feel great and makes the world a better place, you need to know what your values are.
When you don’t know what your values are, it’s easy to pursue a career that isn’t a good fit or to spend time doing things that drain your energy instead of making you feel great about yourself. If you feel disappointed or frustrated with your life, it’s probably because you aren’t living according to your values. Knowing your values helps you make good decisions that let you be the ‘best you’ and live a fulfilling life. And that’s something we all want.
I’ve written a small booklet to help you understand what values are and help you identify your own unique values.
If you’d like to know more about what makes you unique and amazing: